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Stonewalling can destroy a relationship: what to do about it
What is Stonewalling? 1) refusing to answer questions, 2) avoiding conversations, 3) refusing to make eye contact, 4) waking away from the person who is initiating conversation, 5) they change the topic, or attack you, to avoid talking about it, 6) they walk out in the middle of a conversation.
Why does Stonewalling happen?
Stonewalling happens because your partner never learned to tolerate disappointing someone, or being wrong. Maybe they had a demanding parent. Maybe they never learned how to cope with their feelings. Now, as an adult, when their feelings get too big, they shut down.
the mental load can even ruin olive garden
Have you heard of the “mental load”? It’s the phrase that is meant to capture all of the planning, organizing, attention giving, thinking and tracking that you do to run a household. It’s the unseen stuff: the birthday party planning, the tracking doctor’s visits, the noticing your child is picking their nails and might be anxious, the tracking the things you need to buy for the school year. It’s all of it besides the visible chores.
The mental load never stops. It even happens at Olive Garden.
This story is about how to achieve really wonderful outcomes in your marriage:
more teamwork
the feeling that partner is a PARTNER and not a CHILD
the feeling of being connected and loved
less stress in your life overall!
Is Your Happiness Sabotaged by High Chore Expectations? 3 Questions to ask to figure it out
Most women know what it’s like to have a husband who is slacking on doing the chores. Picture this: it’s Saturday morning and you’re tidying up the house and feeding the kids and your partner is watching sports. You can feel the resentfulness creeping in. “Why does he assume I’ll feed the kids?” you wonder. You are not alone.
In today’s post, I’m going to teach you the three questions to ask yourself to help you figure out the perpetual question: “Is my partner slacking or are my standards are too high?”
how to schedule a family meeting
You want to start a conversation with your partner about getting on the same page with chores but you don’t know how. You’ve tried before, but it hasn’t gone well. They got defensive and started naming all the things that they do.