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Revisiting Instagram: Defensiveness
We raise men to value strength, being right, and being tough over being in touch emotionally.(This is actually misogyny: devaluing "feminine" characteristics.)
As a result, when confronted with their mistakes or ways they may have unintentionally hurt someone, they ⚡go very quickly into shame⚡. This happens when ⚡they can't tolerate the "I'm wrong"⚡ experience.As a result, when someone shares they were hurt, they interpret it as 💥blame💥 instead of as sharing experiences.💥
One way many men avoid shame is by turning the blame they perceive around on someone else. They don't know how to tolerate feeling bad, so they project it outwards instead.